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telling the boss

I finally had the chance to tell my boss about the baby this morning.  He was working from home Friday, Monday was a holiday, and he was gone to a retreat all day on Tuesday.  I told him that my husband and I are expecting our first child in February.  That was about it for my end of the conversation. He took over from there, as he usually does.  He has a lot to say on any given topic and since his daughter is 8 months pregnant he has a lot to say about his new grand baby.  I now know a lot about that baby and his/her mother (they have decided to be surprised on the gender and to wait to name the baby -- of course it's hard to name a baby if you don't know the gender).  Then his wife called so I left. 

No questions about whether or not I plan to come back after the baby's born or anything about maternity leave.  Not even a "how are you feeling?" to try and decipher how this would affect my work.  He seemed happy about it, it definitely wasn't a bad thing and asked if we were going to find out the sex.  So it went somewhat how I expected.  I figured I'd throw it out there and then he would talk, but I really thought he'd ask me about returning to work since I figured that's what bosses did.  Of course when I had my interview with him he never asked me any of the normal questions, just if I knew this or that person at my then current position where he used to work.  It's a big agency so I only knew a couple of the people he did so I wasn't sure if I had passed or not.  I guess he's not a very traditional boss that way.

So with that weight off my shoulders I'm much happier today.  I no longer have to try to disguise Little Bean, it's getting really hard.  Yesterday one of my other coworkers asked if I was pregnant.  I was pretty sure she already knew because I'm Facebook friends with a girl she works with closely so I wasn't surprised.

I read yet another tragic story about a woman losing her baby, this time at 36 weeks.  It was a good story, but very sad and now I'm super paranoid that something will happen to Little Bean.  Every little twinge freaks me out.  I keep telling myself that these women are in the minority, most pregnancies turn out just fine and I really do feel that everything will be ok with mine.  It's like watching a horror movie, these stories scare me.

Last night I finally tried out one of my prenatal yoga videos.  It was good to stretch and use my muscles.  Maybe I'll do it again sometime :)

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Amanda said…
Oh, Tiffany, avoid those stories like the plague!! They're so heartbreaking and produce needless stress for us during our pregnancies because those stories really are the minority of pregnancies.

I'm glad it went well telling your boss. My boss' first question was when I was going to leave on maternity leave and how long I'd take off. It was so disorienting because I had no idea how long I *could* take off, whether I'd come back, and no clue when I'd feel like stopping work. Your boss is a saint! :)

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